26 October 2010

because today was full of tornados:

True fax: I will go barefoot until it starts icing over
I'm going to document a bright and pretty Fall day to try to shake all the storm and all the gray out of my eyes.

Do you think it disgusts Maura Kelly when fat people love their kids?  
Sandboxes in October.

The view.
No make up and dirty hair happy.

25 October 2010

wrock me like a hurricane (you know, the mixed drink?)

In a stroke of total crap, all the photos I took at the wizard rock show Friday night came out to be totally useless. So, I'm tossing you a few links to get the general idea, if you be interested.  The good news? While being deeply situated in nerddom and audience-specific in-jokes, the performers and the fans were so incredibly sweet and excited that it was almost impossible not to have fun. I'm not normally very comfortable in any kind of crowd (even if the crowd is, as was the case at this show, in a living room), but everyone was nice, and everyone was there to have fun. What I dislike and what bugs me out the most about seeing live music at small pubs and house shows is that noxious and obnoxious "look at me look at you" tension. I'm giddy to report that there's none of that bad noise at a wrock show.

Some of these acts would not normally be acoustic, I think, and I'd love to see all this over again at a real venue with much loudness and some electric implements of major ka-pow.

The performers were, as follows,

Armoured Bear Cub: Repping deep nerdcore with songs about everything from Buffy to John Green's young adult novel, Paper Towns. (Basically, this a side-project of Lauren Fairweather and Matt of The Whomping Willows... so, they were opening for themselves, I guess you could say.) My favorite: "Peeing In A Bottle"

Justin Finch-Fletchley and the Sugar Quills: The first real wrock act. Mr. Finch-Fletchley broke about 12 and half thousand e-strings, but was kind of adorable about it. I think I would've liked his set better electrickafied and with a full band, all things considered. The girls (and they are mostly girls at these wrock shows; as a side note, I'm sure I was the oldest one there) loved him. He was hocking some pretty hilarious "JFF is my BFF" pint cups at the merch table -- I wonder how many folks were old enough to drink.  My favorite: "Expelliarmus"

Lauren Fairweather: Lauren played songs from her other popular wrock act, the Moaning Myrtles, as well as songs about other geektropes and life--presumably life as a nerd--in college. I think it would be fairly accurate to say LF is the Melanie Safka of the wrock scene. My only itch here was with Lauren's "Post-Potter Depression" songs and merch. I get the parody and all, and it sure is catchy, but, you know, eh. It's a turd of a feeling to know that you're the only person in the audience who's suffered the illness being parodied (that's an assumption, I know, but I'm pretty sure I'm right about it). My favorite: I'm Going to Hogwarts

The Whomping Willows: Actually just one dude, Matt, who can write a bitchin wizard song. Plus, I mean, he was pretending to be the whomping willow. And his album is called Wizard Party Forever!!! Even my fairly hep cat little brother, who came with, found himself in the throes of many an unstoppable chortle. I enjoyed this particular shtick the most. My favorite: I Believe in Nargles (this video does not accurately encapsulate how excited the fans get about this, and every, song played)

Anyway, so, basically, this was a good time. A silly time, but a good one. Plus, lots of the proceeds for this tour go to pay for the health expenses incurred by the family of a fan who died of cancer. 

nly channels rita skeeter, rocks out; baby j is embarrassed by his mother 

On an utterly secondary side-note, the second sale at the shop happened tonight! I'm so dorked out I can barely stand it.

yours in albus,

some thoughts on parenting ...

Alternative Parenting and Gender Socialization: Caregiver-Driven Activism

If the gender socialization is of utmost importance, which it is, parenting styles and social tactics have a logical place in that discussion. First, identifying “alternative parenting” means differentiating it as a specific approach to child-rearing: from my perspective, alternative child-rearing sees many aspects of the dominant culture (often via the media, but also as reinforced by other adults in positions of authority) as too invasive, too wrapped up in conditioning “normalcy,” or, to put it quite simply, harmful. Alternative parenting insists that concentrating on a value system that is gender neutral, while keeping biological sex identity in a rational place, is not a radical idea, but rather a rejected one.

Furthermore, alternative parenting is multicultural: it respects and embraces difference as an essential part of human life. For the improvement of the culture, parents should seek out entertainment and education that are connective; that is, they form bridges between cultures and types of people, rather than burn them. This is not to say that parents whose work and attempts to survive keep them from being able to thoroughly examine possible influences on their childrens’ lives are parenting incorrectly or are, somehow, “less than” parents who have the time to devote to such research. Instead, this speaks to how necessary it is for parents to support one another, rather than alienate one another. Indeed, parents should be supported by the culture at large; media geared toward children should not work against parents in this respect. While it’s probably true that media/entertainment cannot be totally “value neutral,” these outlets should strain to avoid outright harm (which often comes in the forms of bias). As a parenting style, alternative parenting relies on community, closeness, trust, and the establishment of meaningful boundaries for children that have their basis in a rational discussion of dominant culture’s effects on children.